Near Death Experience books written by the well-intentioned are generally filled with lessons of holistic thinking, the joy of nature, the beauty in the human soul. They are brimming with stories of people who, upon reviewing their own life, witness an overwhelming sense of empathy towards others, who see how their negativity affected those around them, and how their positivity affected others as well.
Once they have died, they are able to read people’s minds at any instance in the past and know beyond a doubt what that person had really been thinking and feeling. This “life review” process is meant to bestow in people the sense that they could have done better, obviously, that they should have shown more concern for the welfare of their fellow men around them, that they were too caught up in living alone to really relate to others, that they didn’t take the right amount of time with their children or friends and family.
On some levels, this sounds like a fascinating ability, but I’m sure it would be a “lesson” that would not be well received by all.
In fact, in many instances, it would be a torturous experience, especially upon someone who has been abused, physically or mentally, in any way. Those who suffered multiple terrible experiences in life can sense the sadism in people, how people’s concern is mostly for themselves, how others enjoy using those around them.
Someone might have been tied regularly to their bed by their parents and denied food and water for days on end. More simply, someone might have just been kicked around on a daily basis by their classmates and coworkers, abused emotionally by others, and at the same time, blamed themselves for its occurrence. “Pick yourself up, don’t let them get you down,” is often relayed to these people who have been abused, who are afraid of going near others. It is meant as words of encouragement, but the words are usually taken to reflect yet another disability within the victim’s soul.
Not only do I somehow always become the victim, these people find themselves thinking, but I am the cause of my own victimization since I am allowing it to occur. Imagining such a person is not very difficult and you may know one of these people yourself, or you may be one yourself. Imagining them going through a life review might therefore be much too painful, and would be yet another example of the sadistic mentality of even the saints in the netherworld which would cause these victims to flee, or perhaps even refuse to enter that shining bright light. I don’t know about you, but I generally enjoy at least some ignorance of people’s intentions around me and feel that experiencing a life review of my own might be too difficult to bear, not because of the pain I might have cause others--though I can already imagine this without their assistance--but because of my need to deceive myself into believing that certain people really aren’t manipulating me.
What more should one learn from such a review if they already know the bitter truth in all its black glory? What is there to be gained? No, the lessons of the commonly relayed NDE by some are not for everyone. They most often focus upon the need for more nurture and care of others since this is relayed as a missing ingredient to the further enrichment of life in general.
People are said to return from beyondmore relaxed and able to relate to people around them. They are taught to be more willing and able to stop and help others crossing the street, give money away much more freely, tend to focus much less upon their own needs than on the needs of others—all the while forgetting that many of those people purporting needs are actually pretenders, selfish, and manipulative.
Learning to help people more often is a double-edged sword, as any politician will tell you. In most instances, it might be better to maintain and encourage at least some sense of ego!!